New Year’s Resolutions: The Non-List
My oldest daughter is heading back to college to finish out her junior year in just a few days. There are many things to be done. She is a list maker. Lately, as her personal stress begins to mount, she’s taken to vocalizing these lists. I find it interesting to note, that she repeatedly mentions two things. She reminds us all, that we still have to do our White Elephant Gift Exchange. (No, we haven’t done that yet. It’s been tough to get everyone together the last few days.) My daughter is also insistent upon creating her New Year’s Resolutions for 2012. This year, I just don’t share her enthusiasm.
I’m impressed with my daughter’s determination. She’s a goal setter. If she sets the goal, writes it down, she usually achieves it. She comes by this self-motivated behavior honestly. I used to be very much this way. In fact, looking back over lists of resolutions, I can see goals set and prioritized, re-prioritized, some of them abandoned. Some of them partially realized. Some would still be on a list today, if I were making a list.
Last year, at this time, I had one goal in mind. I wanted to lose weight. It turned out that within a week into the New Year, my only goal was going to be getting through the year. So, this year, I’m taking a different approach. I’m not making any New Year’s Resolutions. Okay, sure. I have goals. I have the same goal I’ve had for the last 10 years: drop the last few pounds. I have new goals born of having recently turned a certain age and realizing that I won’t be able to work forever, and asking myself how am I going to support myself in those days when I can no longer physically report to work. Financial recovery and progress has got to be a priority.
But I’m hesitant to officially make New Year’s Resolutions, because if I don’t make progress on them, it is at best discouraging, demoralizing, demotivating. Last year, try as I might, I made some progress on the weight loss, but not nearly enough to be considered real progress. My efforts and energy and time were forced into focusing on other priorities. I think, instead, of making a list that might look something like this:
1. Lose 50 pounds.
2. Save money.
I’d just as soon wait and see what the year has in store. I mean, sure, these will be my priorities in 2013. But, I make these goals cautiously, knowing that life sometimes has a way of taking you places you weren’t planning on going.
If it’s all the same, I’m hoping for a pretty drama-free year (what are the odds this will ever happen for me?). Maybe then I can, for the first time in decades, actually stick to and achieve the New Year’s Resolutions, which I am not making this year.
But I am curious. Are you making any New Year’s Resolutions this year? If so, what are they? If you could only make two resolutions, what would they be and why?
Posted on January 1, 2013, in Holidays, The Future and tagged holidays, New Year's Day, New Year's Resolutions, personal growth, personal success, setting goals, single parents. Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.